This Began As A Comment But Got Out of Hand

I was leaving a comment on the previous post, but as it got longer I decided it was important enough to have a space of its own:

Hold on!

While I agree with both Zeno and Ozarkyn, I do NOT believe I have won the right to trash my ex, and in fact I don’t believe I have done that.

If you read carefully, you’ll notice that I have described events and words, and have not used judgmental descriptors. I do not use pejorative terms or assess his character. I tell the story and any conclusions you draw are your own, and while I appreciate the support, I cringe a little when people use pejorative terms because a) I didn’t go there, and b) it is usually way past where I would go.

I try to treat everyone with respect by not trashing ANYONE. However, I will relate events and I try to stay true to the facts as well as any involved person can.

I have made a promise to myself and others that this will not be a forum for revenge or slander or reckless ranting. (Well, maybe a little, but only on other topics). I take full responsibility for anything I write and am comfortable with all my friends and family reading my words. Comments are the opinions and thoughts of other people and though I may cringe from time to time, I believe everyone is intelligent enough to realize that I do not write those comments.

And now? I must get out of these boxers and into some kind of try-not-to-look-unwashed-and-bedraggled Mommy costume for the camp drop-off.

Comments

  1. I think mommies look fantastic in boxers.  But maybe that’s just me…

  2. Hey Mindy, I’m little confused. Ozark guy might have stuck up for your ex, but he didn’t make the same point Zeno did.

    If I’m misunderstanding this—sorry

  3. No, it’s NOT just you Ben… and Mindy? I didn’t say you trashed your ex, I just said you had won the right to should you so choose. We haven’t because we don’t know the guy.

  4. I didn’t think you trashed your ex, Mindy.  I think you’re pretty honest, but not into the Wagnerian vengefulness I’ve come across on other blogs.  (And if vengefulness isn’t a word, I just made it up.)

    Anonymous posting in any form bothers me, and I’ve gotten into trouble in the past for taking an anonymous post to task.  (On another blog.)  But it’s too easy to hide behind anonymity; sure, I could say lots of things if I wasn’t prepared to put my name behind them.  This is one of the pitfalls of the Internet, I think.

  5. Who’s trashing Mr. X??? Lemme at em. I’ll murdahlize the…. oh wait…your “Ex”. In that case fire away, just not in front of the children. Better yet, you could post all about him on my blog, I’m not using it :-)

    All these X’s, how are we supposed to keep this straight? Does this mean I now have to become “the X Sean Connery” to keep up with you? You are the “O” right?

  6. Ok, now I’m confused by Nick’s comment?  Is he saying that Zeno and Ozarkyn shouldn’t be handled the same way becasue they left different comments, is he disagreeing with either Zeno or Ozarkyn because of the content of their comment, or is he disagreeing with you?

    And I agree that you haven’t trashed anyone one here, but I also agree with Zeno in the fact that you are the only one that has the right to do so.  But for what it’s worth, sometimes it’s just far too tempting to trash someone you don’t know when you know they have no impact on your life.

  7. Did you delete comments from that post?  Because I left one, that did not insult the Ex, and it’s gone.

  8. Er… for the record: 1) Sorry, Mindy, didn’t mean for this to become an issue. 2) I wasn’t (nor do I think Zeno was) suggesting that Mindy was “trashing” her ex. My comment was more towards other commenters. I’ve talked to the “Ex” a few times, so felt a need to make my comment…

  9. The higher ground is best.  Good points made.  Wrestling in the mud just leaves you dirty too.  Congrats on keeping it all mature.

  10. I didn’t think you were trashing your ex. I thought you were just venting in general. I think that you are justified in complaining about anyone who is in your house who leaves the mayo and juice on the counter, whether it be the ex, your kids, your exterminator, your mother or your dog! The key phrase in that sentence was that it is your house  – the one that you pay the mortgage on. I’m sure the above list of people would complain to you if you did those things in their house as well.

    I feel that way all the time at my house – I don’t particularly care about picking up after myself. I made the mess – I’ll deal with it! But your mess??? I reserve the right to complain about that any day … whether I’m married to the guy who made the mess or not!!!  :-)

    Good luck with the ants!!!